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Relationships Check

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Is It Time for a Relationships Check?

Relationships are the source of nourishment and resilience for all young people in many different circumstances and from many different backgrounds. Search Institute’s Relationships Check is a tool for self-reflection and conversation among practitioners, educators, peers, and families. It helps everyone who works with youth to gain insights on their relationships with important young people in their life. It helps you learn where relationships are strong and where they can grow.​

Think of one or more young people you interact or work with. Answer the following questions as honestly as you can.

Remember, your answers will be anonymous. 

How much attention are you giving to each of the actions listed below in your interactions with young people?
1. Express Care
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Showing them that they can trust me.
Giving them individual attention.
Making them feel known and valued.
2. Challenge Growth
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Setting high expectations for them.
Helping them learn from mistakes & failure.
Holding them accountable for their actions.
3. Provide Support
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Guiding them through hard situations.
Building their self-confidence.
Standing up for them when they need it.
4. Share Power
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Taking their ideas & opinions seriously.
Involving them in important decisions.
Letting them take the lead.
5. Expand Possibilities
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Inspiring them to see future possibilities.
Exposing them to new ideas.
Introducing them to new people, places, and ideas.
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